Jeremiah 31:23-32:44 / 1 Timothy 3:1-16 / Psalm 88:1-18 / Proverbs 25:20-22
1 Timothy 3:5
“…for if a man (or woman) does not know how to rule his own home, how can he takes care of the church of God?”
Timothy is laying out the qualifications for leadership (elders and deacons) within the church. This verse in particular is one that is a general challenge across the board for anyone who is married, with children – the leaders of their homes.
We can find ourselves so consumed with the desire to do “church stuff” - to “plug in”, “get involved”, join 85 different small groups and Bible studies and be about the “call of ministry” that we bypass the biggest, MOST IMPORTANT mission field that is right before our eyes – our very own marriages and our very own children! All of the for-mentioned church activities can be very good and right, but we must make sure we are getting our priorities in the right order not letting our “treasure” get lost in the shuffle.
There is a particular thinking that has infiltrated the church over the years that says, “Lord, please take care of my flock while I’m about the business of taking care of Yours.” This idea allows people to feel like they can dedicate the majority of their time pouring themselves (their best energies) into ministry activities believing that despite their absence, lack of time and energy, and “left-overs” they offer their own family, everything will some how turn out splendidly at home.
Timothy speaks directly to this very issue in Chapter 3. SPIRITUALLY HEALTHY, STRONG, INDIVIDUALS, GOD-CENTERED MARRIAGES AND HEALTHY CHILDREN WHO KNOW AND LOVE THE LORD IS OUR FIRST CALL ANOUR TOP PRIORITY! (DEUTERONOMY 6:5-9) This requires a great deal of our time, energy and focus - just as all growing, thriving, fruitful relationships require commitment and effort! It is an investment that yields awesome, peaceable “fruit” we will get to enjoy right here on earth PLUS it holds eternal promise!
Sometimes it’s essential to do a “simplicity check” in order to re-focus our eyes to the lives we’ve been given charge of within our own 4 walls making sure we are keeping first things first and not bypassing our NUMBER 1 CALL! If we need to make adjustments to our priorities, let’s be brave and decisive enough to do it – our families are depending on it!